(This was written earlier but posted later...)Just came back frm my company’s retreat-a team building event which lasted for 3 days at Selesa Hillhomes. Well, I was slightly skeptical at start as I was also feeling down that my pal, Kristy was not attending. Instead she was sent to JB for another road show… The *Gloom* feeling went through me as the day for the Retreat approached…Me alone with ppl whom I do not really know without my pal? Was really torturous as I was awaiting the day to come… haha… Think I sound like a Drama Queen now..
Anyway, the day finally came and boarded the bus at 8 smthing (was the last one to arrive smore! He he….) Tot that I could actually continue my sleep on the bus BuT… the game started---a Treasure Hunt along the way till we reach our destination! Gosh…was so sleepy but surprisingly, it was pretty fun as we looked for clues all the way, ended up at KFC, lemang stalls before the last clue was found near the swimming pool. As for the rest of the trip, I have to say tat it was interesting as we never knew what was to happen next. Everything was hushed up till we do it.. So I got to build a bridge project, logo design project, a skit, night water-gun game, yoga, being auctioned off, sarong football, celebrity nite, statue dancing, pole-balancing and of course talks frm directors! Wow- pretty jam-packed retreat! But it was all good… I found myself enjoying the activities with some new- found friends..(not many ler…a handful! Hee hee..)
And of course in all team- building camps (though this was my first) there’s bound to be feedback time at the end of every session. Believe me, I was so terrified that I would be chosen! Haha… tried to hide behind ppl and all. Phew…luckily I was not selected. However, I do have answers ready in my mind ady just in case…”Always be prepared”! Most interesting was that everyone has a so-called “sugar cube” where it was actually envelopes stuck on the walls around the room. Everyone has their own and what it actually was for- whenever we have anything to say to the other person, we can write it in a piece of paper then deposit in that person’s sugar cube! Be it good or bad messages…of cos, no one was mean, I think! Well, I had 3 notes in mine…Still tryin to figure out who wrote them- wouldn’t u like to know wat was mentioned bout me? Hehe….. Good stuff la of cos!
After the whole thing… I felt tat I had a good experience and was surprised tat I had not much time to think of how lonely I was without my buddy..(though still wished she was there, would b so much more Fun! ) I guess, when I prepped myself up for the whole trip, it kinda gave me more confidence and to look at the whole thing with more light. Perhaps we must always….. ‘Give yourself a chance as well as to others’…..
Hmmm..it's soon to be a month here ady at my new work place... Time passes Sooo Fast! : ) Not too sure how I'm feeling at the moment as everyone usually asks _ "Hey, how's ur new job?" Urm....kinda difficult to answer as everything is still new to me... Trying to fit in lor?! Hee hee.... Now I feel like a newborn as I have to re-learn most of the things here again! Of course, there seems to be less stress but then at times, feel bored..Hehe! Really Billie Jean's sister- Lo Lei Jean!
Definitely was used to the fast-pace environment previously where there's not much time for a breather frm the start of morning till nite. Phew....those were the days! But there are proud achievements to be mentioned ler. One should never ever think he or she has wasted time in whatever that they have done. Instead to use whatever strengths that they have and turn it into their positive attributions in new-found work. He he... like so deep manz....
Well, I happened to be watching Oprah yday (one of my fav talk shows), and the topic was about "Put your strengths to work". It's written by this guy called Marcus Buckingham (Terrific name, rite?) I found it kinda motivating. It was as the title suggests- "to put your strenghts back into ur work!"
The show actually broadcasts several women who were really tired with their work-life and felt unappreciated. In some way, I think all of us do feel that way- am not referring it to gals only but guys too! The author actually asks us-
1. How to turn yourself around?
2. Do we just sit there and focus on our sad complaints?
- That my bf/hubby/boss dun appreciate me.
- That I've not been doin anything for myself. Everything that I do is always for them, them, them...
3. When do I stop saying "YES" to everything? How about my "NO's"?
Hmm..all in all, I think there were several good points highlighted in the show. For example, I do think sayin "NO" is kinda hard to do.. it's like u will disappoint someone. But on the other hand, u'll feel shitty bout sayin yes as it may turn out to be somethin tat ur really reluctantant to do. So how ar, that's where our "YES" comes in lo... Just to please someone, eager to get an approving nod from someone, so to belong in a group... Sigh.. others would either "see" you as being really helpful or someone that they can always dump their load on!
Then its back to us again, choose then- whether u want be "good" to yourself or u "really feel good" putting others ahead of u first? This can be sometimes confused with selfishness... bear in mind, i do think that most people do find themselves as selfish if they show that they care for themselves first. I guess we should stop looking at ourselves in that manner.......
Why not look at it as making yourself happier first before you can do unto others?
